), but if you attempt an ongoing discussion with your four-year-old, you’ll find you won’t have a very alert audience for too long.My rule of thumb for attempting to change a young child’s behavior is to be “swift and safe.” By swift, I mean move in quickly to correct the behavior and place your child in an environment where he or she will be safe since young children have a tendency to lash out physically when angry or disciplined.It’s unreasonable to expect anything else, so while it can be frustrating for you as the parent to have to continue disciplining your child for what seems like the same offenses over and over, remember how frustrated your child is and how normal it is for her to act out.Your role as the provider of loving, consistent discipline helps her to feel safe and secure, which will help her through this stage in her development.Every time Karen tells her 5-year-old son Jayden it’s time to leave a friend’s house, he explodes, throwing his toys, screaming and kicking her.“It’s gotten to the point that I don’t want to take him anywhere anymore,” she says. Her 3-year-old toddler has started biting other kids when she’s frustrated.For the young child between the ages of two and six, the main thing to remember is to keep the discipline simple and easy to understand.
As Charlotte’s parent, your job is to move in swiftly, lowering your body to meet Charlotte’s eyes and stating: “We don’t hit,” while taking the plane away.
Joey gets the plane to play with while you watch your daughter.
If she continues to be aggressive or physical she is removed from the situation to a safe environment where she will sit until she calms down.
Kids of every age are smart and very adept at sensing indecision or wavering in parents.
If a child thinks for one second that they can get away with an offense, they will try it—and if not called out by their parents for their indiscretion, will learn early on that they can work the system in their house!