New rules for love sex and dating
During the interview, Merritt asked Stanley why he did not address the LGBT community in .
We might expect an Evangelical pastor’s answer to explain that he did not address this community because LGBT lifestyles do not fit the parameters of marriage as God defined it. “I met with about 13 of our [church’s] attenders who are a part of the LGBT community…
Andy and his wife, Sandra, have three grown children and live near Atlanta. But in the end, regardless of how many potential right candidates there are, one and only one is chosen. As of the writing of this book, it appears that five contestants chose well. I assume you don't take your relationship cues from script writers and authors. While most everybody has a mental list of what makes the right person the right person, most people abandon their lists for physical attraction and chemistry. While instant chemistry is common, instant chemistry that dovetails into an instantly healthy relationship with until-death-do-us-part potential is not. But before marriage, a lack of objectivity is dangerous.
CHAPTER 1THE RIGHT PERSON MYTHAt the center of every great love story are two people who are right for each other, destined to be together. Three hundred pages or a hundred and twenty minutes later they've figured out what we knew all along, leaving us entertained and, in some cases, inspired by their story. In the case of these two reality Tv shows, we don't know who's right for whom until the end. But it's possible you've embraced the underlying premise that holds these story lines and episodes together. A good many divorced men and women had already located right person 2.0 while in the process of divorcing right person 1.0. You may not believe there's one right person for you, but you are looking for the right person. When you're physically attracted to someone and there's that extra something we will refer to as chemistry, it just feels right, doesn't it? Show me a couple who are attracted to each other and share that certain something, and I'll show you a couple convinced they are right for each other. Sex distorts positive and negative traits in a partner.
It fails to lay out clearly the sanctity of marriage and its divine purpose, which has to do with much more than fulfilling our “relational satisfaction quotas.” As a pastor, it is disappointing that he avoids Genesis 2, which clearly lays out the purpose of marriage, namely, that it is a covenant relationship between one man, one woman, and God.
As hard as it is to admit, America’s most influential pastor will not define or defend the sanctity of marriage because he doesn’t want to upset anyone.
But instead of pastoral counseling, readers are offered endless clichés like, “the ,” “your relationship will never be healthier than you,” and “fix your pet, not your partner.” Stanley does expound on his amusing sound bites, but prefers to draw from clever anecdotes and humorous stories rather than Scripture.
So he seems to compromise his teachings by insinuating that Jesus would probably bake a cake for a same-sex wedding couple and therefore Christians should too.
Stanley’s move away from orthodoxy is more evident while discussing his new book with Religion News Service’s Jonathan Merritt.
But if readers don’t have a foundational understanding of the moral implications of the marriage covenant, then the rest of the discussion is pointless.
This is the most troublesome part of Stanley’s book.