Opposite sex friendships while dating
Shadreck Magaleta from Nchalo in Chikwawa says it is in order for one to have such friends because we all differ in the way we were raised.
“For example, a girl might have been raised in a home that was full of boys and cultivated relationships with a lot boy-friends, which can be a problem to stop even when dating,” argued Magaleta.
“I think sometimes it is healthy to get input from another female.
But on a regular basis I should not be sharing intimate issues with a woman who is not my wife.”Here are Linaman's tips to help you manage opposite-sex friendships so they don't threaten your marriage relationship: While opposite-sex friendships do have the potential to create problems in a marriage, these friendships can enhance your relationship with your spouse if appropriate boundaries are in place.
Chancellor College sociologist Charles Chilimampunga, says it is harmless in having friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship despite there being challenges that can come as a result of such friendships.
He says it is socially acceptable for a male or female to have friends of the opposite sex outside relationships, but emphasises that things have to remain on the friendship level and not more than that.
Not all opposite-sex friendships are dangerous, but it is important to err on the side of caution.
Linda Mgwadira, a student at National College of Information and Communication Technology (Nacit) in Blantyre says it is okay to have friends of the opposite sex when one is in a relationship as there is no harm in doing so.
If not kept in check, a totally innocent relationship could end up causing unnecessary harm to your marriage.“I think it is OK to have friendships with the opposite sex.
But I don’t share with other women what I haven’t shared with my wife,” says Will Honeycutt.
Here are a few of them:“If you answered 'yes' to one or more of the questions above, your opposite-sex friendship may be a real threat to the quality of your marriage,” Linaman says.
“It may even be in the best interest of your marriage to either significantly limit or actually end your close friendship.”An informal survey shows that both married men and women were uncomfortable with their spouse having close friendships with the opposite sex.