Sex dating rules
But because playing a game necessarily translates into masking your authentic self, these rules cannot deliver the kind of genuine partnership on which true love is built.
Instead, following bogus rules when it comes to dating invariably leads to one of two ill-fated consequences: Playing the game culminates in a kind of bait-and-switch in which one member of the new couple tends to feel duped; or one person continues to operate behind a façade so that he or she never becomes fully known by a partner and ends up locked in a one-sided relationship. It is important to have boundaries and to not reveal more or do more than you are completely comfortable with.
Also, I hate that sexual double-standard where it's implied that women "give" sex to men. I think it's up to the two folks to determine how long they can date w/o hitting the sheets. I think it's up to the two folks to determine how long they can date w/o hitting the sheets.
Books such as Eric Berne's What Do You Say After You Say Hello?
This is quite different from "role model" concepts of early development which emphasize the same-sex parent. One implication for men is that they should choose woman as mothers whose father they like, because their sons are going to resemble him in a lot of ways.
And it's not to deny the possible importance of other childhood experiences. In terms of dating, people tend to pair up with those who either further or complement their scripts, the former being the one-sided kind of relationship.
I went deep inside of myself to where I truly reside and stayed there, peaceful and still.
I met my date, Rob, at a coffee shop, still deeply in touch with my self and enjoyed the most rewarding first date I'd ever had.