Today, people looking to experiment with same-sex relationships have more options than he did, says Nitz, and more acceptance too.
And of course, the Boy Scouts have since reversed their position too.
But for the curious college student, it’s important to realize that sexual identities can be fluid, rather than fixed.
For a number of young adults, labels around sexuality don’t always correlate with their actions.
Safe sex Talking about hooking up, however, was common, with 84 percent of students reporting they'd talked with their friends at school about hookups.
People who talked about hooking up were more likely to approve of and take part in hookups, Holman found.
D., director of Undergraduate Studies in Sociology at The University of North Carolina at Greensboro, who has written extensively on student relationships.
Yet she still wasn’t sure how to describe herself when coming out to her parents.
“I told my dad and my stepmom that I was ‘mostly gay,’” says Stayman-London, now a writer living in L. “And I told my mom I was bisexual, and none of it felt like the right thing to say.”But Kuperberg says there's a fourth group of college students in her data set: those who self-identify as conservative or have strong religious backgrounds, who may face additional social pressures to identify as heterosexual or struggle with internalized homophobia.
“There was a big disconnect between what people said their sexual orientation was and what their actions were.”College is the time when sexual evolutions and experiments are likely to take place because students have often reached their sexual maturity, but not their emotional and economic maturity (as evidenced by the fact that many college students are in debt and making plenty of foolish decisions).
“Hooking up is one way some young people try to get through the long period between their sexual coming of age and their achievement of educational, professional, and relationship success,” says Stephanie Coontz, head of the Council on Contemporary Families, which has published Kuperberg’s previous research on hookups.